Dynamic Wholeness

As I continued to offer my HealthyMasculine.com circles for all genders, I was often asked about feminine archetypes, and how to balance Masculine & Feminine within ourselves. So we created a series called Dynamic Wholeness as a way of exploring “Masculine” and “Feminine” in each one of us through the doorway of archetypes (or energies) that interact and express uniquely in all beings.

The problem is that we have built (in society) gender identities around these energies, categories which can be limiting and unhelpful. So we don’t see them as gender categories necessarily – although of course they relate! Any being can relate with, explore and express their own embodiment of Masculine or Feminine energies. This can unearth some of the implicit biases or judgments or history we’ve inherited unconsciously, and can help to compassionately witness them and loosen them up. It may also give us more choice about how we embody – or don’t embody – Masculine & Feminine energies.

This way of holding space invites curiosity about ourselves and each other and brings a new awareness to access our wholeness as Masculine and Feminine energies interact and express uniquely through every person and group.

It’s all about choice

We are not here to say there is a “right” or “wrong” way to relate to these energies. Some people may not feel that they relate to them at all. That’s fine. We’re here to hold conversations that help us to unearth any histories and judgments, to appreciate some of the possibilities or qualities opened to us, and to come more into choice about how we relate with or embody these energies. We are, in today’s world, looking for ways to re-define gender in a more satisfying way.

To do so, we offer an 8 week ceremonial series for people of all genders & identities who wish to invoke, explore & awaken a more nourishing and reciprocal relationship between Masculine & Feminine elements within themselves, and between each other. Embodied, experiential activities, as well as an exploration of various archetypes, will be interspersed with verbal sharing and reflection, allowing participants to weave a rich tapestry of shared inquiry.

Join this conversation to share and unpack your personal experiences of these powerful archetypal qualities, and to collectively rewrite the script of gender and culture in the world today.

Stop Gaslighting Nicola … And #SaySorry

Our culture needs more capacity to “say sorry'“

To most reasonable people, I’d like to believe that Alex Salmond’s assertion that both Nicola Sturgeon and the government’s harassment policy are “out to get him” is obviously nonsensical. Clearly, this is a man who’s had his ego bruised, and who – rather than receiving the telling-off the nine complainants’ case against him represented with grace and learning a lesson or two – is very publicly throwing his toys out of the pram instead. It is an unfortunate, but also supremely obvious strategy.  

So why are we giving it so much attention?

Why are we wasting so much emotional energy on his tortuous and highly unlikely pursuit of alleged persecution? Even more astounding: why would we (as the media pundits are currently attempting to do) pin the future of Ms. Sturgeon’s political career on the outcome? Surely the Scottish people’s love of proper bureaucratic process cannot outweigh their common sense? There is something that is both absurd and highly familiar about how this story is unfolding, something which carries with it the sense of a foregone conclusion – which I would very much like to challenge.

“As we change our society, we must face up to the beliefs we have disowned and the actions we have unconsciously perpetuated.”

We humans have the extraordinary ability to compartmentalise our experience, to allow some aspects of ourselves into our conscious awareness, and to push others into the shadows. It is this capacity which has enabled our society to carry out innumerable acts of cruelty and violence (slavery, colonisation and the subjugation of women to name a few) while believing all the while in our moral integrity. As we change our society, we must face up to the beliefs we have disowned and the actions we have unconsciously perpetuated — to dredge them up into our shared attention, as painful as that process may be, so that they lose their power and can be changed.

The case against Salmond was an opportunity to do this very thing. Although Salmond won his case, the information that came to light about his conduct (whether or not it constituted a felony in the eyes of the law) told the story of an almost bygone era, in which it was socially permissible – even encouraged – for men to objectify women, and to claim access to their bodies as an expression of power and status. Salmond believed he did nothing wrong, because from the perspective of his culture he only did what was widely sanctioned – if consciously denied. 

“A public boundary has been held, a line in the sand drawn”

The fact that a case was held against him sends a message that societal values are changing. It is no longer acceptable for women’s personal sovereignty to be undermined and invaded by those in positions of power. A public boundary has been held, a line in the sand drawn. We are very close to acknowledging an injustice that has been perpetuated in our own hearts and on our own lands for many centuries. And yet change can be a shaky and tender process. The temptation to let it all slip back into the darkness is strong. 

How is it possible that it is now not Salmond but Sturgeon who is effectively on trial? This is a classic case of gaslighting: that age-old twist of logic – or perhaps, of consciousness – by which a perpetrator of wrongdoing transforms themselves into the victim, and their accuser into the assailant.

“For this kind of change to take root, however, it must be collectively acknowledged and maturely upheld.”

I cannot allow the new growth I witness towards a more equitable and humane social future in Scotland to be buried and twisted under a flurry of red herrings. What Salmond calls a “conspiracy” I will call by a better name: change. Good change. In a sense, if Salmond thinks he’s being conspired against it’s because it is true. He acted badly, and the laws – and public opinion – are finally catching up. For this kind of change to take root, however, it must be collectively acknowledged and maturely upheld. The First Minister is setting an excellent example in her humanity, sensitivity, and clarity of boundaries in regards to Salmond, and I suggest that we all follow suit.  

Let’s not make any more sacrifices on the altar of our collective unconsciousness, shall we?

It’s time to say sorry.

“I think the only person who should apologise for any behaviour on his part which he was asked to do on Friday and failed to do is Alex Salmond."
— Nicola Sturgeon, March 2021

“You talked in quite striking terms about the injury done to you by this whole process, this whole experience, but you made no mention of the considerable distress and misery caused to certain women at the heart of this”.
— Alex Cole-Hamilton, February 2021

“The first step before anybody else can try to come to terms with that is that Alex has to himself show any sort of sign of acknowledging how people feel about how he behaved while he was first minister … “But there are a number of women out there who believe he behaved inappropriately towards them and he has shown, even now, no sense of reflection or contrition, or even an acknowledgement of that.
— Nicola Sturgeon, March 2021

Awakening Healthy Masculine

As a man, I saw many instances where men — including myself — acted poorly in community and professional work life. During my 20 years of international Community Development I sadly witnessed the Adolescent & Immature Masculine (& Feminine) consciousness disrupt our collective genius of our full human capacity. I was increasingly aware, that if men (and women) continued to act from “dominance”, the human race would be in serious trouble.

While supporting various international community development projects, in diverse cultural spaces (City, Rural, First Nation/Indigenous, 1st/3rd world), I was continuously heartbroken by the cycle of Dominance / Power-Over dynamic, rather then a more Partnership / Collaborative oriented ways of being & doing together.

However, Toxic Masculinity — although imperative to name, as history has shown us that women often suffer the most — often ended up making men “wrong”, so this was never my focus, as we all played a part in our collective healing. I also was asked by women if they could join my Healthy Masculine circles, and I have heard many men wanted to witness Women’s circles, while many participants did not feel that they fit into either context, and so I felt a new space was needed.

All Genders Welcome

So I began inviting All-Genders to my circles, after recognizing that there are already very well supported Men’s & Women’s Circles, but that we are not collectively discussing it together.

Within this context, a non-gendered conversation, recognizing that "masculine" & “feminine” qualities are embodied by all genders. It is not a "male vs. female" conversation – but one that explores the masculine & feminine aspects of being human, in all of us. It is a cultural shift away from "right/wrong" or "good/bad" ways of 'acting' masculine or feminine, and moving towards a balanced way of being moving into a more authentic, emotionally-connected and life-affirming full-spectrum consciousness.

Power With

I facilitate by holding a collective sharing in community, contributing to re-balancing of the masculine consciousness — which has been so destructive (Power-Over VS Power-WITH). Participants explore the many meanings of "the Healthy Masculine" and honour one another's experiences in order to harness a positive masculine presence in our families, friendships, and communities.

I stress that I have no “answers”, and that I am not “Teaching”, but rather I am holding space for this conversation; after years of working in Community Development & Collective Wellness, I am passionate to create conditions to support the co-mentoring of a Healthy Masculine & Feminine presence within all of us. This is in support of more & more partnership and collaborative modelling to garden our culture.

Archetypes Anchor the Cirlce

Although there are many Archetypes models, I ground this circle using a few accepted Archetypes of the Mature Masculine (Sovereign, Warrior, Magician, Lover). This helps us to explore & gain an understanding of how the Immature – or the shadow side(s) – show up in ourselves, and are often promoted in society. Doing so, invites an awareness to practice and integrate the Mature / Healthy sides of these archetypes.

The Year of Awakening the Healthy Masculine

It’s been a while since I’ve re-started holding Healthy Masculine circles — for all genders. In January, I declared 2018 the year of Awakening the Healthy Masculine. I paused, I watched. I had many conversations with my communities, as the Immature Masculine rears, all day, everyday in the news.

It is because the Immature Masculine is rearing so loudly, that it is becoming obvious to many of our communities. Especially those who may never have considered how damaging the Immature Masculine “power over” structures has been wrecking havoc on our collective experience, they are now becoming aware. They are now listening with much more open minds, ears, and dare I say, hearts. As we’ve seen more frequently, this is encouraging those beloved souls who HAVE known and suffered for such a long time (500+ years, more likely maybe even 1500 when power-over dominant societies started up), at the hands of the Immature / adolescent masculine present within all genders. 

Humanity is now becoming aware that “our” collective planetary wellness (all beings included), is in grave peril. Fear not. Be Fearless. The change starts within you, and it ripples outwards like a wave. Practice your Healthy Masculine, join a circle, or ask for support to start your own local community circle.

It’s time. We are being called. 2018 is the year of that is Awakening the Healthy Masculine.

I took a train to Edinburgh this week. I got to the station and it said “cancelled”. There was an older women who could hardly carry her bag. She was confused by what to do. We were re-routed, and we all got on a bus to another train station; I sat next to her, not sure if she understood where she was going; I quickly learned that she didn’t speak English well.

She could barely walk, nor hold her bag. She had been dropped off by a family member, but the train was cancelled, so she was alone. She couldn’t life her bag off the bus. It wasn’t noticeable, unless I was paying attention. I gestured that I could help her with her bag; she seemed nervous but willing for the help. I was in a rush to catch my re-directed train to get to a meeting 10 hours away. I walked slowly with her shuffling along from the bus to the train station, and brought her to the counter. I spoke to the attendant, got her ticket changed, and brought her to the station. I sat her down, and handed over her bag. She sighed, and rested into the bench knowing her train would now arrive in “24 minutes”. She said god bless. I repeated god bless. I walked away, found my train, sat down and felt proud of myself for being present to someone else’s needs, beyond my own hurry, worry and re-direction in a foreign country where I now live.

I didn’t need to rescue her. And yet, she needed support, as an elder in this world. The family who dropped her off likely said the same prayer I did as I left her:  “please, could someone support her to arrive safely home”

I caught that unheard prayer, and I sent it out again. And I thanked those who care for my mother and father, while I am not around to do so myself.

THIS is my Healthy Masculine.
THIS is my practice.
THIS is how I change myself.
THIS is how I co-mentor — by listening, reflecting, sharing, and learning as we grow.

I don’t ‘teach’ the Healthy Masculine, I invite and co-mentor — by holding a safe, vulnerable and structured space, guided by my own fearlessness, my own heart center, honouring all of our experiences, and standing present to witness the healing.

Let the healing begin.
Share positive stories.
Join a Circle.

If you would like support to start up your own local Healthy Masculine Circle, contact me, and let us begin. As it is time to Awaken the Healthy Masculine — to support a reciprocal and nourishing relationship with the feminine.

This is our year — Be your Healthy Masculine.

“Donal Trump and the Crisis in Masculinity”

As I witnessed more and more the immature masculine in recent US news, I came across an editorial from US based Voice Male magazine, “Donal Trump and the Crisis in Masculinity” that captures a sentiment I have been feeling:

“…By running for president, Mr. Trump gave citizens an unexpected opportunity to begin a serious discussion about contemporary masculinity. Imagine a curriculum developed in classrooms in all 50 states; dialogues on our sports fields; heart to heart talks among faith communities— a nationwide, multigenerational summit about manhood, about boys becoming men. Donald Trump’s ultimate contribution to the 2016 election may turn out to be the teachable moment before us. For the sake of our children and grandchildren, we can ill afford not to begin the conversation..."

I feel too that we can ill afford not to continue the conversation while the political divisions in the US and around the world brings us ever growing awareness that now is the time to act. Our opportunity to practice your Healthy Masculine, and to co-mentor each other is upon us. It starts with everyone's own inner work, encouraging the light, energy & awareness of your own healthy practice, and moves outward. 

Healthy Leadership

I shook Obama’s hand at a rally in 20012 in Boulder Colorado, and I felt - and was in awe of - his presence. Regardless of your politics or whether you feel/think Obama was a ‘good’ president or not, he has a way of carrying himself and showing up in his full authentic self as a leader - within their position of authority - and mentor us to do the same, simply by gracefully being in their fullness (Sovereign, Warrior, Magician and/or Lover). 

When society witnesses a mature leadership model like Obama, it shifts the way we are, how we act, and who we become; we all gain by being in the presence of mature leadership role models.

The Crisis in Masculinity

Unfortunately, the upcoming US presidency demonstrates classic signs of the immature masculine (the tyrant, the detached manipulator, the know-it-all trickster, the impotent lover, and the bully, to name a few). I can see how the immature masculine within western society will get very loud as it is in its final hours of adolescence, before it matures as we birth into a new age of Healthy Masculine.  But with any crisis comes opportunity for shifts in awareness. I always wonder why it takes a crisis, but here we are, witnessing increasing political divisions, and this is our opportunity to stay connected.

Practice your Healthy Masculine

This is an important time in human history, and it is the best moment to listen, find, and practice your inner Healthy Masculine, while co-mentoring with each other. 

I started hosting Awakening Healthy Masculine circles for all genders in order to encourage the awakening awareness in our communities in crisis. I encourage you to join your deeper selves, and join others in an exploration of your Healthy Masculine. Re-member, re-skill and co-mentor each other. Practice your Healthy Masculine. Learn to be keenly aware of its immature sides within you. This will guide the healing that is coming to western society, as we create more positive presence in our families, friendships, and communities.

Healthy Masculine Resources

To support our collective learning journey, I created a Healthy Masculine Resources page, to encourage you to start and continue to co-mentor each other in this awakening within you, within us.

Golden Opportunity to Practice your Healthy Masculine

The political divisions in the US and around the world brings us ever growing awareness of our golden opportunity to practice your Healthy Masculine, and to co-mentor each other. It starts with everyone's own inner work, encouraging the light, energy & awareness of your own healthy practice, and moves outward. 

With any crisis comes opportunity for shifts in awareness. I always wonder why it takes a crisis, but here we are, witnessing increasing political divisions, and this is our opportunity to stay connected.

Join a Healthy Masculine group to encourage the awakening awareness in your community. This is another call to remember & practice your Healthy Masculine.

See the Healthy Masculine Resources page for support, and start/continue to co-mentor each other in this awakening within you, within us.

How healthy competition between men is being used against us

I love to compete. It drives my inner passions. It fuels me to become a better person. I learned this early — by being a better player on the field. I played American Football for 8 years as a child, where competition was fierce. My coaches were determined to support us little rascals to “win”. Such intensity.

I had great coaches, who often cared more about us boys, then winning … or should I say, they cared more about how we played together & how we learned with each other, before the next game started. And we would slowly improve, with each game. One of the things I will never forget is our head coach speaking to us exhausted boys after a loss, that “the score at the end of the game matters less then this week’s practices. Make your practice our focus, and the scoring will take care of itself.”

But I started to see that some people think of competition as an end game. To destroy the other, in order to win for yourself. We played teams that were coached to injure other players on the field. I didn’t believe it. The act of injuring someone on purpose, rather than playing better to win, never made sense to me. Besides we were children, heading for the adult age of 18 – who would injure someone, on purpose? I laughed it off, until a new teammate of mine confirmed his experience. He played for an opposing team the year before, and decided to switch teams, because a father of one of the boys on his team had been actively “coaching” the lads to injure the best players by “ aiming for their knees”, and “pinching, grabbing, punching or kicking” in the pile ups when refs couldn’t see them.

We stayed focused on practicing, not injuring others to win. I won 5 championship seasons, in the 8 years I played football. It was the care of the coaches that taught me to compete well, by practicing to our full capacities, and learning to improve through healthy competition.

Whenever I saw someone better than me, I’d befriend them, rather than feeling jealous of them. I knew I had things to learn from them, and that I could better myself. Even in high school, I joined an advanced math class rather than taking a “spare” for more time off – my friends said I was crazy, but I loved math, even though I struggled to understanding its concepts. I knew that just sitting around those who found the advanced concepts “easy”, that I was learning something new — even it is was through osmosis!

I have always struggled to understand why competition was so fierce — why would men fight each other at night clubs just because “he looked at my girlfriend”. How could injuring someone else make them feel like they were winning? But I started to see this in professional sports, more often than I wanted to admit, because they are just having fun, right? Not really — as slowly, I saw this type of negative competition enter into my professional field, where colleagues would often batter each other with jealously, mis-trust, and backstabbing. My naivety around hurtful competition was exposed, and I started to question how I was sheltered from “real life” — is human existence = really all about beating the other down, and survival of the fittest? Is it true, that life really is nasty brutish & short?

Arriving from Canada in 2016, I travelled extensively around the UK seeking answers to how we can better collaborate together for mutual benefit, since I had seen enough suffering from hurtful, dominant style, competition in my travels and in my work (see: Finding My Voice). I was invited to and participated in a wonderful experience of the Masculine & Feminine Reunion Ceremony on Dartmoor-Autumn Equinox. It was exhilarating to see & experience an ancient journey continuing, remembering how to collaborate together – in community. What a joy to feel met in my exploration, and to witness others’ in circle, on Dartmoor, on this European land, where my caucasian roots came from generations ago. I could feel the Devon community hungry for these deep explorations, the ancient ways of knowing how to collaborate, and not compete, that often feels forgotten.

Soon after, I attended a talk by Pat McCabe and Charles Eisenstein who were holding these conversations and courses on the The Co-Creation: Future of the Masculine and the Feminine. But what shook me to my core was what Pat shared to a group of 50 men, over 2 days. It was powerful to witnessed a large group of men, sit & listen in silence to one woman’s experience of the masculine!! Was this even appropriate? Pat wondered that as well, while explaining that she had been called to be there through a vision she’d received to speak to European men — where the colonial hurt was exported to her native land. She expressed how heartbreaking it is to see how competition between men is being used against them, in our current society. She explained that in ancient times, competition was seen as a design tool in order to enable men to find their own special gift so that they will then be able to offer it for their community. When one man wins a completion — the other man is not jealous. he is humbled, and he thanks the man for having such a great gift on offer to the community. The man who “lost”, must continue to compete with other men until he finds his gift — compete with other men, until he “wins”. When he does, the community sees his gifts, and thanks him for brining it to them.

However, the current system is set up for men to endlessly compete. When one gets to the top of the corporate ladder, he is now exposed. everyone wants his job, and will do what it takes to win his job. Nobody wins in this culture of attack. Everyone, eventually loses.

I could feel a collective sigh of silent relief from the men, and an inner knowing when she expressed this view of competition. It was a strange moment. Silence. Agreement. Relief.

This is how I have always understood competition — I just never had to explained so well to me, caught up witnessing, and living, the dominant style in western culture. Healthy competition from my early years is what helped me hone my gifts to offer, and it is how I support a co—mentoring, learning as we grow.

Have you found your gift to offer your community through healthy competition?

Leaders Who Show up in Their Fullness

Obama's thank you to, and honouring of, Ellen DeGeneres is a top example of the Healthy Masculine. Regardless of your politics or whether you feel/think Obama was a ‘good’ president or not, we need more leaders like Obama who show up in their fullness - within their position of authority - and mentor us to do the same, simply by gracefully being in their fullness (Sovereign, Warrior, Magician and/or Lover). 

I shook Obama’s hand at a rally in 20012 in Boulder Colorado, and I felt - and was in awe of - his presence. When society witnesses a mature leadership model like Obama, it shifts the way we are, how we act, and who we become; we all gain by being in the presence of mature leadership role models. 

Unfortunately, the upcoming US presidency demonstrates classic signs of the immature masculine (the tyrant, the detached manipulator, the know-it-all trickester, the impotent lover, and the bully, to name a few). This is an important time in human history, and it is the best moment to listen, find, and practice your inner Healthy Masculine, while co-mentoring with each other. 

The immature masculine within western society will get very loud as it is in its final hours of adolescence, before it matures as we birth into a new age of Healthy Masculine.

Join your deeper selves, and join others in an exploration of your Healthy Masculine. Re-member, re-skill and co-mentor each other. Practice your Healthy Masculine. Learn to be keenly aware of its immature sides within you. This will guide the healing that is coming to western society, as we create more positive presence in our families, friendships, and communities.

Practice your Healthy Masculine - in community

Intact cultures have many elders teaching by doing. Others witness the genius and emulate it, respectfully knowing that it took generations to acquire this knowledge. As Jon Young notes, Western society does not have an intact culture. I see that we do have elders, but there are not enough elders in our “villages”, our neighbourhoods, and many elders have not been taught the ancient ways of knowing, in community. So if it is up to us to relearn, co-mentor each other, how do we learn the ways of the Healthy Masculine? 

Moment by moment. With patience, in community.

For me, I need to celebrate the small victories as they give me an opening that I need to awaken my Healthy Masculine. By celebrating the small or “easy” moments where I notice when my Healthy Masculine is present, I begin to remember my practice through my felt sense experience so that when my shadow sides arise, and they do (especially when I don't even know it!), it is in that millisecond moment where I recall my felt sense that I noticed in my practice. 

One way to catch your Healthy Masculine when it arises, is to know how it feels, and what it looks like to be in your healthy masculine. Another way is in the responses you get from others: children will adore it, ask for more of it, and your lovers will soften and trust you. When you experience this, your exploration has got roots, and your ability to pull yourself, your heart, your mind, your body back into healthy alignment in the millisecond you have to notice, before old patterns begin to take over. Some call this your reptilian brain of fight/ flight/ freeze, others call this your Loyal Soldiers who kept you safe when you needed it most. But in that millisecond moment, know that you are alive, and that you made it to this point, and don't forget to thank those human survival traits that kept you safe — however, these survival traits are no longer needed, you are not in imminent danger, and you have choice now to practice and thrive as your Sovereign. 

Practice your Healthy Masculine – in community – and your inner knowing will become louder, and more obvious, in those millisecond moments, that awakens your exploration.

Welcome, the door is open.

I have witnessed plenty of destructive immature masculine energy in my family and community life, in politics that I have engaged with, in war times (that I have fortunately not experienced personally), and in my own international community development career, where I have witnessed tremendous hurt, and power-over, dominant behaviour. I have seen too much hurt, misunderstanding, and mistrust, when what I was seeking (and actively working towards) was human kindness, compassion, and untethered support for each other.

In 2015, I felt it was time for me to actively start calling “in” (not calling “out” ! ) what the Healthy Masculine provides in our society. I wanted to support a remembering, and a co-mentorship atmosphere where sharing and co-learning are invited. So I began to hold non-gendered conversations about "masculinity" in my various communities; and because I sense both a hunger and a reluctance to participate, I carefully frame the conversation in a safe container, as I recognize that far too much hurt, pain, and loss has occurred, and and continues to this day. But because "masculine" qualities are embodied within all genders (eg: anima & animus), I frame the conversation not as a "male vs. female" conversation, and if there was no blame associated with our experiences, and no shame attached to our failings, then this could be a conversation that (safely!) begins to explore the healthy masculine aspects of being human on this beautiful planet. This is where I can see people begin to rest into the idea of gathering together.

This space provides a baseline opportunity for people of all genders to share, and be be seen, while also offering to each other their witnessing and collective learning. Through my holding of grounding in “Council” format, and "Compassionate Communication (NVC)", participants can explore the many meanings of "the Healthy Masculine" and can really begin to honour each other’s experiences. My hope is that these circles are contributing to a cultural shift away from "right/wrong" or "good/bad" ways of 'acting' masculine, and move our society towards a balanced way of being — into a more authentic, emotionally-connected and life-affirming masculine consciousness. And this is where I can feel us harnessing a positive masculine presence in our families, friendships, and communities.

I can hear calls of the Healthy Masculine howling within our collective societies. A longing, a hunger to reconnect, not blame or shame. More and more I see and hear gentle conversations in cafes, more and more circles gathering, and the seemingly increasing destructive politics around the world and social media’s constant barrage of opinions. There is a yearning, and a hunger to awaken the Healthy Masculine. Many have been asking for this ancient knowing, and seeking this awakening their whole lives, especially as humans are in a state of the “Great Turning” (a la Joanna Macy).

For me, this is an important time in human history: In order to address major social, environmental and political crisis, we are again being called to re-member, re-skill and co-mentor each other in our communities, by practicing how to live into our Healthy Masculine, supporting a reciprocal and nourishing relationship with the Healthy Feminine.

The door is open. Everyone is Welcome. 

Come and explore in a multi-gendered safe space – with trust built over time, in a gently held Circle. This is a deep personal spiritual journey, in a safe, respectful reflective, community exploration.

As a foundation or a map from which to explore, readings/excerpts from the “Archetypes of the Mature Masculine” are shared and discussed, but ultimately, understanding of masculine archetypes are 'caught' through ones own life experiences. It is in the exploring, in the community sharing, in the listening and the practicing that we begin to 'know'.  As my dad always said, “learning is caught, not taught”, and so this is an exploration, not a workshop.

As we explore, share and understanding how the immature / adolescent masculine – or the shadow side(s) of masculinity – show up in ourselves (and are often promoted in current societies), we can start to collectively bring a balanced awareness and begin to practice and integrate the healthy (or mature) sides of the masculine archetypes: Sovereign, Warrior, Magician, Lover.  Once there, I see us taking a deeper dive, as we contemplate what the Healthy Masculine awakens in the Healthy Feminine. These circles are not simply serving the masculine, they are supporting a reciprocal and nourishing relationship with the feminine.

Welcome, the door is open.

Enquire now to join a Healthy Masculine circle